Celebrities Who Took Unusual Paths to Career Success

Celebrities Who Took Unusual Paths to Career SuccessCelebrities Who Took Unusual Paths to Career Successleumund courtesy of CourtneyA career path is rarely a path at all. A more interesting life is usually a more crooked, winding path of missteps, luck and vigorous work. It is alfruchtwein always a clumsy balance between the things you try to make happen and the things that happen to you. Former Viacom President Tom FrestonDo you find yourself struggling to visualize your career path? It can be difficult to see the next steps in your career when youre focused on the day-to-day responsibilities of your job. Not where you want to be? Relax. Many of the worlds biggest successes took some interesting turns down their own winding career paths.Martha StewartImage courtesy ofquiltingmickBefore she became the lifestyle and homemaking powerhouse she is today, Martha Stewart was a child model, and from the age of 13 she appeared in fashion shows, print advertisements and television. After atte nding Barnard College, Stewart left the lights and glamour of the fashion world for the cutthroat world of Wall Street as a stockbroker with the boutique firm Monness, Williams, and Sidel.Christopher WalkenImage courtesy ofindieflickrChristopher Walken has appeared in over 100 films that have grossed over a billion dollars. Before his inspiring film success, however, Walken worked as a lion tamer for the circus and dropped out of Hofstra University.George ClooneyImage courtesy ofhotgossipitaliaDid you know that George Clooney was an avid baseball player growing up? Before he became one of the most recognizable faces in film, he tried out for the Cincinnati Reds Major League Baseball franchise. Although ultimately unsuccessful in making his professional baseball dreams come true, Clooney has since become an Academy Award-winning actor.Ashton KutcherImage courtesy ofjdlasicaBefore being recruited by a model scout at the University of Iowa, Kutcher studied biomedical engineering. Kutch er also worked in the cereal department of General Mills to make extra money during school. Since then Kutcher has become a model, actor and entrepreneur.Marissa MayerImage courtesy ofleandroCurrent President and CEO of Yahoo, and No. 8 on Fortune Magazines 2013 most powerful businesswomen, Marissa Mayers name is recognized worldwide for her innovative and controversial leadership. After beginning her career at McKinsey Company in a consulting job and teaching at Carnegie Mellon University, Mayer became employee No. 20 at Google and the companys first female engineer.A career isnt about an end destination. Sometimes the twists and turns of your winding path may bring about more insight and learning than you could ever imagine. Take a lesson from some of the worlds most well-known names and try many things on your own road to success.

10 habits that change boys into men

10 habits that change boys into men10 habits that change boys into menThe demise of our culture will result from the demise of its men if something isnt changed quickly. Far too many men remain directionless, devastated and scared children.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreMale suicide rate increasedto three to four times higzu sich than the female suicide rate.Men are twice as likelyas women to become alcoholics. Andmales are far more likelyto commit juvenile crime.Much has been said and written in recent years about the challenges of men and boys. A sampling of book titles includesWhy There Are No Good Men LeftThe Demise of GuysThe End of MenWhy Boys FailThe End of Men, And The Rise of WomenBoys AdriftManning Up How The Rise Of Women Has Turned Men Into BoysA common theme is that men and boys have become increasingly confused about their identity and role in society. Kay Hymowit z, author ofManning Up, put it this wayIts been an almost universal rule of civilization that whereas girls became women simply by reaching physical maturity, boys had to pass a test. They needed to demonstrate courage, physical prowess, or mastery of the necessary skills. The goal was to prove their competence as protectors of women and children this was always their primary social role. Today, however, with women moving ahead in an advanced economy, anbieter husbands and fathers are now optional, and the character qualities men had needed to play their role fortitude, stoicism, courage, fidelity are obsolete and even a little embarrassing.It is the norm in Hollywood films, TV and cable shows, and even commercials to portray men as incompetent, immature, or self-absorbed. This underlying message has subtly and increasingly become the collective unconscious with devastating repercussions.Academically, it is reported in the United States thatGirls outperform boys now at every level f rom elementary school through graduate school.By eighth grade, only 20 percent of boys are adept in writing and 24 percent adept in reading.Young mens SAT scores in 2011 were the lowest theyve been in 40 years.According to the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES), boys are 30 percent more likely than girls to drop out of both high school and college.In 2017, women will earn more than 60 percent of bachelors and more than 63 percent of masters degrees.Boys make up two-thirds of students in special education remedial programs.Women deserve the increased success they are getting. Theyve been oppressed forfartoo long. Theyre hungrier and more motivated than most men. And hopefully, society will continue to allow them the increased equality they deserve.However, this articles focus is on helping the struggling and confused young man. Indeed, many young men have taken the adverse cues of society as an excuse to evade responsibility and never really grow up.If you are a young ma n and youre struggling,youare elend alone. This article is intended to challenge you to rethink your entire approach to life. If applied, these habits will radically set you apart from the decaying norm.1. Think BeyondYourselfKids look to their parents for all the answers. When they become teenagers they know all the answers. Many never mature out of this stage and remain incredibly narcissistic, which is displayed inthe followingwaysBelieving you are better than othersExaggerating your talents or giftsExpecting constant praise and admirationFailure to recognize other peoples emotions or feelingsExpressing disdain for those who seem inferiorTrouble keeping healthy relationshipsActing as if you have nothing to learnMoving beyond self-consciousness requires an increase in overall consciousness.By heightening your level of consciousness, youll see the brilliance of humanity in general, be able to relate deeper with others, experience greater joy, and have enhanced ability to manifest t he destiny of your choosing.The followingare ways to increase your level of consciousnessAllow yourself to experience your feelings, rather than block them out. Meditation is a helpful way to do this. You experience your thoughts and feelings, learn from them, then let them go.Let go of framing your idea of what should be and genuinely accept what is. The journey is the end, not simply a means to an end.Identify the meaningless things to which youve assigned meaning. Happiness and security can never be experienced when dependent on the external they can only be achieved internally.Begin trusting your inner voice. If you feel a prompting to bring an umbrella with you, even when the weather report says the contrary, bring it.Explore the world, experience new cultures, and have your paradigm shaken and reframed.Question your own intentions and motivations.Be humble about your own humanity.Act with love, and become aware when you are not.2. Stop Playing VideoGamesThere are a hostof both positive and negative effects of playing video games. However, approximately15 percent of American youthhave an unhealthy addiction to video games.Another study reportedthat 31 percent of males and 13 percent of females have felt addicted to video games.Naturally, boys have a strong need for accomplishment and challenge. Yet,studies suggestthat some of the most popular video games are disengaging boys from real-world pursuits. Boys need for accomplishment is satisfied by leveling up in the game so they dont feel the need to go out into the world and solve real problems. Thus, society is not being served by their efforts.Gaming often gets in the way of important relationships or meaningful life pursuits.15 percent of divorces are filedby women because their husband prefers video games over them.This point is particularly significant to me. I myself spent a large portion of my time in junior high and high school playing World of Warcraft. Literally thousands of hours logged-in and lo st.I see many of my high school friends and family members who are now in their late 20s and 30s continuing to play 4+ hours of video games per day even when married with kids.Playing video games isbeing toutedas a healthy way to escape reality. Yet, one must ask Is escaping reality (especially for extended periods of time) ever healthy?3. Learn In Healthy Environments And Lay-Off TheMedsThe industrial classroom model is killing our boys. It is not a healthy environment for them. Young boys need more physical stimulation.The result is that many are improperly and lazily diagnosed with ADHD. Their natural characteristics, emotions, passions, and gifts are being curbed by medications.Although it is not a popular notion, boys and girls are wired differently. Girls are often exclusively motivated by praise. They will perfect their handwriting just to have it noticed.Boys on the other hand, are often motivated by tangible experiences that relate to real life. Thus, many boys see no point in having good handwriting if one day they will spend their time typing. They dont care as much what other people think. They just want to be challenged.4. Get Intensive Physical StimulationShort and intensive learning spurts,followed by rigorous physical stimulation is a powerful and positive way for boys and men to learn. Rough-and-tumble play helps develop the frontal lobe of the brain, which is used to regulate behavior. Sadly, many public schools are removing gym class and recess, further exacerbating problems among boys.In the recent book,Spark The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain,authorsJohn J. Ratey and Eric Hagerman share some amazing science and stories. For instance, despite many schools removing gym-class from their curriculum, others have put more focus on it and found staggering results. When kids exercise in the morning, they learn far better. In fact, they improve in all areas of their lives. Human beings are holistic. Your brain, your emotions, y our relationships, are all tied together.If youre living a sedentary life as a man, youre not getting the needed stimulationyou need.Research has foundthat males thrive in kinesthetic learning environments learning through moving.Healthy Testosterone LevelsIntensive physical activity, like sprinting or heavy weight lifting (followed by extended rest periods) are a good outlet for mens need of physical stimulation. Moreover, these intensive physical activities can activate healthy levels of testosterone which produce many positive effects includingFat lossMuscle gainHealthier bone densityNormalized blood pressureLower likelihood ofobesityandheart attacksIncreased energyMore enjoyment of career and familyFeeling younger, stronger, sexier, and healthierHealthy sex driveStudies have foundthat healthy testosterone levels affect mens cognitive performance, and can improve focus, motivation, and memory.The Need For PhysicalPainInterestingly, boys and girls experience pain differently. For boys, physical pain can be a stimulant fueling mental clarity. On the other hand, physical pain for girls can be a narcotic, making them feel hazy and confused.Ive seen this in myself. Some of my greatest insights have come while pushing myself to the extreme while doing yard work or while exercising. This phenomenon is also seen in endurance athletes who push themselves through pain for many hours at a time.5. Take Responsibility For Your Life And Set Your Standards HighIn his book,Boys Adrift,Dr. Leonard Sax explains that boysneed not want to be responsible. If they are not needed, they dont flourish.Men step down if theyre not needed. And because of societys message that men are no longer needed, many are staying in their parents basements.Although most men will not go out of their way to take on challenges and responsibility, this is the very thing they should do if they want to thrive. Indeed, it is becoming common knowledge that perception is followed by physical experience in the form of self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you will succeed, you often do.If you set your sights high in life, you will achieve incredible things. In order to do this, you can no longer play the victim to circumstances. Blaming the world, your parents, school, or the challenges youve faced in life is not going to solve your problems. Its going to keep you stuck and bitter.Instead, take the time to imagine and mentally create your ideal life. Mental creationalwaysprecedes physical creation.You have the inner power to create whatever life you want to achieve. All you have to do is spend the time creating that world with intention. Write down exactly what you want in life. Set your standardsridiculouslyhigh. Dont hold anything back.Read, rewrite, and reread your ambitions often. These will soon consume your subconscious mind creating new patterns in your brain. Eventually, youll manifest the world youve been creating in your head.6. Prayer, Meditation, And JournalWritingChri stianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, and every other religious and spiritual tradition strongly stress the significance of regular prayer. Although the form of practice may be different, the purpose is the same -GratitudeInspirationSelf-realizationDeepened connection to God/existenceThe improvement of humanity as a wholePrayer (and modifications such as meditation and gratitude journals) areregularly foundto increase physical and mental well-being.For me, I often combine prayer with journal writing as a form of meditation. I seek inspiration, direction, heightened perspective, and gratitude.Scientifically supported benefitsof prayer includeImproves self-controlMakes you nicerMakes you more forgivingIncreases your trustOffsets negative health effects of stressPeople are often turned-off by prayer, believing it is a strictly religious practice. Even if organized religion is not your thing, you can still have a positive and healthy relationship with prayer.7. Earn GoodFriendsY ou are who you surround yourself with. Theres no way around it. If you want to evolve past your current state, you need to remove yourself from the negative forces in your life. This will not be easy. Misery loves company.However, when you decide to remove yourself from negative people and instead surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you your life will dramatically improve.Take the leap. Invite your friends to come along with you. If they dont understand your needed evolution, kindly bid them a loving farewell.8. Commit Fully ToSomeoneWere supposed to believe that relationships tie people down, that they are the death knell for creativity and ambition. Nonsense. Ryan HolidayWith all the productivity and success advice going on in the world today,very little is writtenabout the benefits of finding a spouse who supports you and makes you better.It is quite rare for people to stay committed to anything or anyone these days. There are countless fatherless children. Many seek easy sexual prey followed by the internal pit of emptiness too afraid to reveal and confront their true identity.Research has foundthat committed relationships can reduce the chance of illness and increase the length of life. Other benefits of long-term commitment in relationships includeGreater sense of life satisfactionIncreased happinessA host of practical benefits, such as shared assets and childrenLess likely toengage substance-abuseDecreased likelihood of depression and neglect of ones healthChoose your love, love your choice. Thomas MonsonI got married at age 24. Ive never felt restrained by that decision, only liberated. Now 29, we have three foster children, what most would consider a huge blow to our freedom.This could not be further from the truth in my experience. Instead, Im challenged to become a better person every day. Im challenged to think beyond my own needs and to learn patience, humility, and love.I would never make such monumental decisions without prayer, fasting, meditation, and journaling. However, when youre in a state of clarity, you can follow your intuition and consistently make good decisions. As Malcom Gladwell expounds in Blink,snap decisions are often more accurate than well-thought-out ones.Of course, marriage isnt easy. Its the hardest thing Ive ever done. But why choose the easy path? As a man, challenge and responsibility is precisely what is needed to thrive.9. Fall In Love WithLearningOrdinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and learning.We now live in a world where you no longer need to go to college (or high school) to become educated. At your fingertips is an unlimited and ever-increasingly well of information. You can become an expert at anything.Many of the worlds most successful people attribute their success to a love for learning. They often read one or more books per week. With a few books, you can learn how to build wealth, healthy relationships, and the life of your dreams.Wi th more information and education, you will make better lifestyle choices. Youll be less likely to have destructive addictions and make ignorant decisions.Youll be more likely to surround yourself with brilliant people, learn new languages and explore the world, come up with solutions to the worlds problems, and have passion and zest for life.Stop gaming and start reading. Therealworld awaits. And its amazing.10. Take BiggerRisksDont fail by default. Richard Paul EvansRichard Paul Evans, the famous writer, often tells a story of being a shy high school kid. In one of his classes, he sat next to the girl of his dreams. He spent an entire year wishing he could work up the courage to ask her out. But he never ended up talking to her.Why would she be interested in a loser like me?he would say to himself.A few years later, at a high school reunion, they met and talked.I just have to ask Why didnt you ever ask me out?she asked.I always liked you and hoped you would talk to me.Evans was sh ocked.He had been wrong that entire time and missed the opportunity he spent over a year dreaming about. In that moment, he determined toneverfail by default again.If Im going to fail, Im going to fail big,he has said.If I fail, Im going to fail after giving it everything Ive got.Stop playing life small. Date people that seem absurdly out of your league. Theyre not only in your head.Dont be conservative in your career until youre in your 40s. There is little risk while youre young, energetic, and motivated. Now is the time to take huge risks. Embrace rejection and failure. In turn, embrace enormous and unimaginable success.ConclusionYou can have whatever life you choose.Dont be afraid to dream big for yourself.Have the courage to seize that life and trulylive, rather than only imagining living.The world needs you.How I Turned $25,000 Into $374,592 In Less Than 6MonthsIve created a free training that will teach you how to become world-class and successful at anything you choose.Acces s the free trainingherenowThis article first appeared on Medium.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

How to Explain Being Laid Off to Your Network - The Muse

How to Explain Being Laid Off to Your Network - The MuseHow to Explain Being Laid Off to Your Network Getting let go stinks. Sure, you might wind up with a generous severance (if youre lucky), or maybe you hated your job anyway. But, the sting of being laid off is pretty much unavoidable, especially if you actually liked your job. Feeling sad, angry, or embarrassed in the wake of a layoff is perfectly normal. So is feeling like you have no idea how youre going to share this news with your family, friends, and network. But, leaning on your inner circle for support will help you get through the tough days ahead. And turning to your network might help you land your next job. Here are a few ways to get productive conversations started- without making things awkward. How to Lean on Your Friends and FamilyYou might start with a tearful phone call to your mom or a trip to get ice cream with your best friend to get all your emotions out and let off some steam with someone you know you can tr ust. But once the initial shock wears off, and youre feeling calm and collected and ready to talk to the rest of your inner circle, start each conversation by letting the other part know you have upsetting news to share. You might say something like, I want to talk to you about my job, this isnt easy for me, and Im still sad about what happened. Then, tell them what you need- because these are the people youre closest with, its OK to be more upfront about your request. For exampleIm looking for a shoulder to cry on. I need your support.I want to vent.Id love your help eventually finding a new role, but for now I just want to process it.Setting expectations from the start will help ensure that you get what you need from the conversation. Often, the most well-intentioned people in our lives tend to want to fix things for us (or, worse, give us unsolicited advice) when really all were looking for is someone to listen. Its possible you wont have the energy to talk to every one of your c losest confidantes in person, so sending a group text to your circle of pals is also totally acceptable. You can keep it short and sweet by sending a message likeHey friends- I wanted to share some bad news with you. I got laid off yesterday. It was unexpected, and Im still processing everything. Ill send everyone an email once I figure out what I want to do next. For now, if anyone wants to meet up, my schedule is wide openBe prepared for lots of questions, offers to help you find a new job, and happy hour invitations to follow. If youre feeling overwhelmed, its OK to tell your friends that youll be happy to share details next time you see them in person and that, for now, you simply wanted to keep them in the loop.How to Reach Out to Mentors and Professional Contacts for AdviceGetting laid off can understandably trigger a wide sortiment of emotions. You may feel antsy to find a similar job right away, excited to take a little time off, or inspired to make a major career pivot. Wha tever youre feeling, it wouldnt hurt to ask your mentors and career allies for advice. Depending on your relationship, you can reach out over the phone or via email. You might say something like I was unexpectedly laid off from Company and am giving serious thought to what Id like to do next. Ive always valued your advice, so I wanted to ask if I could take you out for a cup of coffee and chat with you about my next steps?When you feel ready to jump back into the job search for real, you can send an email to former colleagues, acquaintances, and extended family asking for more concrete help. It might look something like this Email TemplateHi Name, Hope all is well/How are you doing? Its been so long since last time you interacted.Im reaching out because Id love your help. As you may have heard, Im no longer with Company and am on the lookout for a new job. Im targeting types of roles with companies in career space, and am specifically interested in working for organizations like Com pany 1, Company 2, or Company 3. If you happen to hear of any opportunities in field, or if you know anyone who works at these companies, Id love a referral or introduction Youll find a quick summary of my experience below, and Ive attached my resume for reference. I really appreciate your support And, if theres ever anything I can do to help you in your career, please dont hesitate to ask.Thank youYour NameShort professional bioYou can decide how much you share about the circumstances of your layoff when you share the news with your network. Its perfectly fine to tell someone that youre simply no longer working for your former employer- theyll most likely understand and not ask questions. However, in some cases, explaining your layoff gives the person context and helps them better tailor their advice for your situation.How to Share the nachrichten With Your Network on Social MediaThis will probably be the last piece of the puzzle, and the reason for doing it isnt to embarrass yours elf further or make light of your circumstances. Its about notifying your extended network- including your friends and contacts on social media who you otherwise wouldnt reach out to via email- so they can help you in getting a job lead. If you need proof of how well this works, you should read this story about someone who posted about their layoff on LinkedIn.You can keep your announcement short and sweet After X years with Company, Im now on the lookout for new opportunities Im excited about continuing to expand skillset in a type of role in career space. Message me if you know of any jobs that might be a fitOrIm on the lookout for new opportunities If you hear of any roles in field in location, Id love to hear from you. I have experience in areas and am excited to pursue type of role/responsibilities.If you were let go due to a well-publicized layoff, feel free to reference that, as its an easy way to explain why you left. You can share an article or press release about the layof f along with a brief line about being in the market for a new jobUnfortunately, Im one of the many people who was impacted by the recent layoffs at Company. Im sad to be leaving but excited about whats to come. Im now officially on the lookout for target job roles in the target industry space. If you know of anything that might be a fit, send it my wayBut generally, the goal here isnt to dwell on the layoff itself but to focus on finding a great new job.The only thing harder than getting laid off might be breaking the news to others. Its OK to feel a mix of emotions in this situation. But knowing that you have a strong support network cheering you on is sure to brighten your spirits and help you plot your next move.